I said a while ago that friendships are like plants; if you ignore them, they die. I've also said that I'm tired of the one always putting in the effort. I decided that I was going to see who my true friends are by practically ignoring everyone. I don't even need all my fingers to count how many people acknowledge me.
There are the people I talk to regularly. I've never worried about them. I've got the people who comment on things when they see them in the five minutes a day they spend online. It's very much appreciated. Then I've got the ones who never comment, "like," share, or even acknowledge that I've commented on something of theirs. They ignore me until they think I've done something wrong. I've got quite a few of those people. These are the people I can tag in things, send notes, "like" everything they do, but only notice I exist when I make a typo or mislabel something.
When they're offline and in real, live person, I only exist when nobody else is available. I've had quite a few "friends" pop up when their relationships are going down the toilet, or if they're having a crisis. Yes, I get that I'm a good listener, but I'm not your therapist. I've got my own things to deal with, and you popping up only when you need a sounding board is not okay. Either be a friend, or an acquaintance. You can't go back and forth as you feel you need.
Since I made the decision to let others show their dedication to our friendship, I've lost quite a few people. I can't say I lost friends because, friends try to keep in contact.
One more thing...
One of my biggest pet peeves is when I voice an opinion and someone tells me I'm wrong. I've said it before, and I'll say it again:
OPINIONS ARE NEVER WRONG!
Facts can be wrong, actions can be wrong, but opinions (as well as feelings) are never wrong! When I say I don't like kids, don't reply with, "How can you possibly say that? Kids are such a joy and blessing." You are welcome to your opinions; allow me to have mine."Can nobody hear me?"
"Hear Me"~ Imagine Dragons
I've always been the friend/family member of convenience. I decided to take the same route a while back. . Finding about your grandmother's heart attack through a post a family member was tagged in on Facebook is pretty crappy.
ReplyDeleteI get that I can be tough to deal with. But I have all these rules and regulations to keep me safe and happy and I don't have the time or patience to climb back out of the pit once you've tossed me in and walked away.
That sucks! I'm sorry :(
DeleteBeing the convenient one sucks. If it makes you feel better, I genuinely like the things you post and have to say!