As I said a few posts ago, I had to say goodbye to one of only two therapists I've had that have done any good. Well last week I started with a new one.
Most of us know how difficult it is to start with a new therapist. I mean, you've learnt to trust the last one, and now you've gotta tell this new person all the deepest, darkest parts of yourself. It's not exactly easy.
Building a therapy relationship with trust can take months. For me it usually takes about four or five months of consistent, weekly visits to even begin to trust. Longer if the first impression is less than stellar. Thankfully, however, my new therapist seems very confident and helpful. So maybe it'll only take four months! Then again, I haven't had the best of luck with the therapists at this clinic... Keep your fingers crossed for me.
People often ask me how I know if a therapist will work for me. Truth is, I have no words for it. I just know. I've been doing this for long enough that I just know when I've got a good one.
I wrote that while waiting for my appointment. Now that I've had two appointments with her, I can honestly say that I like her! She's not a talk-therapist, she's an action one.
Now, I'll be the first one to admit that I'll stay with a therapist just because I don't want any hurt feelings, but I also know that I need one who will work for me.. If you've got a therapist that doesn't work for you, find a new one before they do any real damage. Not to say that they're a bad therapist, just that they're not the right fit for you. In the mean time, if anyone in the Salt Lake valley needs a recommendation, I've found a great one!
May our tomorrows always be better than our todays.
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